reflections on a facebook-free summer

I went without facebook for the months of July and August. In the beginning I shut down my account completely. But I didn’t want to lose my business page, so I made Cory (my husband) an admin so he could update when I was adding a new post. Which worked great, until I felt like I was pestering him to add links/updates for me, so I decided I’d just add the link to new posts as they were happening. On that aspect I kept my facebook account, however on a personal note – I haven’t once looked at anyone’s wall or ‘liked’ anything since my “boycott” started.

Now that summer is over, a few people are asking what I’m going to do? Honestly, I have maintained a love/hate relationship with facebook from the beginning of our relationship. Nothing has changed. I love my family and seeing what my cousins are up to, watching their kids grow from across the country. I hate petty drama, which even as an adult, I seem to get bumped into from time to time.

My plans for now are to continue along the same line as I have been. But for the benefit of family who miss seeing what we are up to I’ll go back to posting photos (mainly instagrams) to my fb page. I’ll randomly update my status and ‘like’ something. I’ll probably check in on your wall/page haphazardly.

So please, for the love of all that is normal, if I don’t see something you’ve posted on facebook – don’t get mad at me and act irritated because I didn’t know what was going on. I much prefer to get my information about  your life and what you’re doing from you. Which is why you’ll get random texts from me about what is going on in my life. Facebook takes some of the personal connection away in that regard. I miss the days when we’d call each other to see what was going on.

For me facebook is a balancing act of pros and cons, things to love and things to hate, and I’ll just continue to seek out the good in it and use/love/hate it for what it’s worth.


About Danielle Nielsen

I am a photographer who loves to bring out the best in you and your life. Capturing those little moments that make you special are my favorite. I am an "on location" photographer and available for travel anywhere you'd like photos taken.
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6 Responses to reflections on a facebook-free summer

  1. Roxanna Nielsen says:

    Thanks for writing how you feel! I appreciate your honesty and the struggle. I feel the same way. It’s the reason I closed my page for awhile. Yet I still wanted to keep in touch with my friends and family. I like your solution: seek out the good. I think it is similar to mine. And that is why I have decided to approach fb as if it was my own magazine. And that helps me keep in mind the “Public” status of this forum. I am the publisher and editor, (what fun it is, too,) I have a theme: love, positive, happy, beautiful, fun and encouraging. It’s not all about me. It’s a “magazine” about what the future will be like for us: Enjoying a beautiful earth and Jehovah’s animal creation. With that in mind, I realize it may not appeal to all on my friends list. I post status updates only when I feel it will upbuild, or benefit those who choose to read it. So I seldom do, because that makes it about me. I share pictures or jokes instead: always asking myself if they are in harmony with my theme. I delete comments or pictures on my timeline that are not in harmony with my theme. Just a note though: I try not to judge how others use their page. (Refer to my ” theme”, lol.) I look up friends and family to see if they need encouragement or reassurance of my love for them. It’s about them. And I agree with you: for more personal contact nothing beats a good old-fashioned phone call or drop a card in the mail. <3 <3

  2. Mai says:

    Sounds like a good strategy to me! (Happy First Day of School, btw. I was thinking of how G must be excited!)

  3. Deb says:

    I agree whole heartedly! I want to TALK to people. Even texting seems impersonal. I feel like a slave to my iPhone sometimes. I was remembering the days without cell phones or computers recently and even though they are wonderful, our way of life was much simpler then. Again, I agree, its a love/ hate thing.

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